Vibrating prostate toys are a good step up from finger play – they get you accustomed to prostate stimulation and having a male sex toy inside your ass for extended periods of time. You might think that a toy which vibrates would be the “ultimate” pleasure for your prostate gland, but this is not true, as the vibrations tend to “numb” the area over time.

Alas, it will feel relaxing at first, but then the numbing effect will take over and the pleasure will become less noticeable. Still, it’s a good middle step for prostate play.

After preparing your ass and washing the toy, use a lubed-up finger to loosen up your asshole a little. You need don’t to go too far in – just 2 or 3 inches should do – as we’re just trying to loosen up and relax the anus at this point, making it more ready for a toy to be put inside it. Use 1 or 2 fingers and take a good few minutes to loosen up your ass.

Most manufacturers of these vibrating anal toys will include diagrams which show how their toy is supposed to slide into your rectum, such as this one and this one.

Once it’s inserted and your body becomes accustomed to it, simply turn on the vibrations and enjoy! Start soft and work your way up to the bigger pulses – you don’t want to jump in at the deep end. When it comes to prostate masturbation, it’s about the journey rather than the destination! Again, you’re unlikely to experience the Super O anal orgasm from a vibrating toy, so feel free to stimulate your penis and scrotum along with the sensations of the toy.

If using Aneros-style prostate sex toys

You really want the best male orgasms that leave your body shaking and legs quivering with pleasure? These sex toys feature patented designs and 100% medical-grade silicone, ensuring an amazing and safe road to your first anal orgasm. Aneros actually make the only medically patented prostate massagers in the world, with their unique design absolutely maximizing anal pleasure for men. The downside? They require practice.

Before using Aneros devices, you need to acquaint yourself with your sphincter muscles (the ones you squeeze when pooping) and your PC muscles (the ones which stop you from peeing). The PC muscles (pubococcygeus muscles) are the trickiest to get used to contracting/relaxing, but doing some kegel exercises should help you to strengthen them. These PC muscles are quite subtle and it takes some time to find them, so don’t lose hope. It feels a bit like you’re “pushing out” up to your groin, but everyone describes this feeling differently.

Place a towel down and lie in a comfortable position. For the best prostate stimulation results, most people recommend lying on your back with your knees bent up and your feet flat to the floor. Some people also find that lying on their side is pleasurable, especially if they bend their knees up toward their chest. Aneros actually recommend lying on your side and bringing one of your knees up toward your chest as high as you can – this is said to grant the easiest access to the prostate, but may not be the most relaxing or comfortable position.

When you feel relaxed and open enough, lube up the sex toy with water-based or silicone-based lube and then insert it into your anus with the prostate-stimulating end facing toward the “front” of your body, as if pointing toward the penis

Get your anus ready by lubing up your finger and fingering yourself with 1-2 fingers for a few minutes. This should help to loosen up your ass and relax your sphincter muscles a little. Next, lube up the toy and gently insert it inside your bottom with the prostate-stimulating end facing “upwards” toward your penis from inside you. The perineum pressure point should gently rest on your perineum, which is sometimes called a “taint” or “gooch”, helping with external prostate stimulation.