Some people will delete all couples pictures, posts etc., others will leave them (and in case you’re wondering, you’re best not deleting such posts/photos, as it’s too emotional a response.).
She went in to No Contact, but a few posts sneaked through and she was confronted with him posting lots of check-ins, couple pictures and using hashtags like #makesmehappy.
She was devastated, but I helped her to see that there was a good possibility that he was trying too hard to convince everyone – and himself – that this rebound relationship was really working.
And I also reminded her that the honeymoon period is just that – one stage in their relationship which is 100% going to wear off. (It did. She got him back.)
Also, please note that pictures of the Other Woman or Other Man are not to be used to beat yourself up. Work on your Trinity (more on that in the EBR Pro resources) and your own inner and outer beauty, and outshine the Other by being the Ungettable Girl.
Remember that social media shows the best of everything and rarely are people brave enough to really dive into the grittier side of life.
With that introduction over, for the rest of this article I’m going to be talking about four potential outcomes, four thoughts that could be running through your ex’s mind to help explain his behavior.
Behavior #1: They Feel Empty, And This Is Their Way Of Acting Out
As many of you know I have a YouTube channel. A few videos ago I talked about my concept of how I like to view the five stages of grief when it comes to breakups. If you don’t have time to watch the video, here’s a quick summary.
- Denial
- Anger
- Bargaining
- Depression
- Acceptance
These stages are not intended to be prescriptive, or to make the difficult process of grieving tidy or neatly packed away, but they can help you understand your reactions and feelings.
I believe that the five stages of grief are an excellent way of describing some people’s behaviors after a breakup.
Grief over a loss does not follow a linear timeline – you may experience some or all of the elements, and in any order, over sugar daddy co different amounts of time.
When it comes to breakups you can experience all different kinds of emotions – sometimes anger, sometimes denial – and not necessarily in that order.
We often jump around the five stages depending on the day, or we might be stuck in one for days.
Your ex is also feeling these stages of grief: even if they don’t seem to be, even if they are the one who ended things, and even if they say they have no feelings for you anymore.
It stands to reason that an ex going through all of these emotional pendulum swings would want to act out.
Sometimes social media can be the perfect way to do this – an easy and seemingly safe outlet for their feelings.
Behavior #2: Your Ex Is Trying To Get Your Attention
Think about it from their perspective for a moment. The two of you were together for a long time (usually the longer, the better to explain this point I’m trying to make).
But all of a sudden, when you go through a breakup, he’s not getting the attention he used to receive.
There’s no-one asking him how his day went, if he wants anything picking up from the shops, if he fancies going out somewhere fun. And there’s certainly no intimate conversation or sex – even if he suddenly has another woman, the level of intimacy and connection he had with you, won’t be there.