Every guy is deeply interested in some subject – the thing that he “nerds out” about more than any other.

It’s the thing that he talks about that seems like it changes his whole demeanor. Even shy guys have no problem talking about their passion, once you get them going.

Find out what he’s passionate about and ask him about it. You’ll discover that guys who are normally shy, closed off, or withdrawn will gush about the subject they care the most about.

When you know the answer to that question, you’ll know a whole lot more about him, who he really is and what makes him go.

It also makes him feel a much deeper connection to you. If you put in the time to find out why he’s so passionate about his favorite subject, he’ll feel like you get him as a person, on a deep deep level.

Guys are looking their whole lives for someone who gets them on a deep level – and they don’t easily let go of someone who does.

3. He Wants A Good Listener

Obviously, I’m not saying that you should just listen to him and whatever he says at the expense of expressing yourself – that’s ridiculous.

What I’m sharing are the things that you can do with a guy to make him feel a deep personal connection to you – that will make him want to bring your lives closer together.

Guys will bond with people who they feel that they can share anything with. They don’t bond with someone and then open up to them, opening up to you is how a guy bonds.

If you want him to bond with you and become more intimate with you, connect with him where he’s most happy and excited to share with you.

First, like I said before – he starts to bond with you. He notices that you’re really listening to him and that you’re engaging with him about things that he cares about – and that draws him closer to you.

Second, it gives him a chance to drop the “mask” that he puts on for the rest of the world and show you who he really is underneath.

There is nothing more important to your long-term chances with a guy than him knowing he can be his true self around you.

If you accept who he really is when he’s not wearing his mask (without a hint of judgment – judgment will shut him down and drive him away from you in a blink), he will feel deeply, truly connected to you.

4. He Wants Someone Who Shares His Goals And Dreams

The best, longest lasting, most passionate connections are between people who are moving in the same direction in life. Who hold the same values. Who want the same things out of life.

Guys are looking for someone who they can count on to back them up – who they know supports them and their direction in life.

That doesn’t mean you don’t have goals – it means your goals align with his and you’re moving towards them together, supporting each other all the way.

For instance, let’s say he wants to work really hard, retire, and then travel the world. Does that match up with what you want?

If it does, great ! Your visions are aligned with each other and you can work together towards your goals. You’re a good match.

If it doesn’t, let’s say you’d rather settle down and raise a family in one place rather than travel, then your visions aren’t aligned. It won’t feel to him like you’re helping him move towards his dreams (just like it won’t feel like he’s helping you towards your dreams either). If that’s the case, then it’s not a good match.