Back Door Primer: How to Prepare for Anal Sex
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Anal sex is cool now. Butt stuff has gone mainstream, opening the minds (and cheeks) of heterosexual men to the prospect of prostate play.
“I am seeing more and more men and women who identify as straight regularly engaging in anal play,” says Dr. Evan Goldstein, founder and CEO of Bespoke Surgical and Future Method, a sex care company for gay men. “Unfortunately, there’s still a lot of stigma, so I think published data continues to underestimate how many straight men and women love anal.”
The snap judgments around those who may want to put things in or near their backsides have slowly dissipated with an increase in education and resources around healthy and safe anal sex practices. “I think people are becoming more comfortable with their sexuality and exploring what they like in the bedroom,” says Goldstein. “All men – gay or straight – should embrace their P-spot. There are so many nerve endings in the ass and when the prostate is properly stimulated, this combination can provide orgasms that are way more intense than just penile ones.”
According to Goldstein, most people are still scared to try anal sex due to preconceived notions that it’ll be painful, “which shouldn’t be if done correctly,” he notes. Some also think it’ll be messy, which he also labels “a myth” as long as the proper steps are taken before beginning. And with that preparation comes douching.
What is douching, you ask? Well, with data highlighting a definite interest in anal play https://hookupdate.net/it/vrfuckdolls-review/ among men of all sexual identities and orientations, Goldstein is here to teach us a lesson on douching, if it’s necessary before anal sex and how to do it in the safest way possible.
Should You Douche Before Anal Sex?
Douching is spraying or cleaning something out with water. In this case, douching before anal sex would be the chance to make yourself feel “ready” before something’s inserted inside you. But is douching absolutely necessary before anal sex?
The short answer: no. As feces are stored in upper bowels and cannot be reached or released through penetration, it’s rare to run into issues unless someone engages in more extreme types of sex.
Goldstein assures that if you eat a high-fiber diet (more on that below) and have a regular defecation routine, most people don’t need to douche before sex. That being said, over 80 percent of men who practice receptive anal intercourse douche before sex to assure there will be no “mess,” which is totally natual and nothing to be ashamed of.
What to Eat Before Having Anal Sex
Because anal sex deals with the derriere, you’re going to have to watch what you eat. Basically, you’re going to have to eat like an athlete, avoiding foods that cause gas, bloating or otherwise upset your belly.
Consumption of foods full of insoluble fiber like vegetables, cereals, soybeans and whole grains are advised a day or several hours prior to anal intercourse. And considering the fact that three of four people in the world is at least somewhat lactose intolerant, you should probably avoid dairy, too.
If meals are getting boring, balance them out with some fruit and/or yogurt. Make sure you drink plenty of water (roughly three liters) to help food flow through the body, and for added assistance, ingest a spoonful of psyllium every morning with a little water. Peppermint oil can help reduce gas, bloating and diarrhea, and if partaking in anal is on the horizon, try your best to avoid red meat and spicy foods. If it helps, most food takes six to eight hours to fully digest.