It works all the time. This guy still thinks that the pull-out method is a good form of birth control, well lets see if he still thinks so when he knocks up some chick he met at the bar… Oh and he has never been tested, not once. Fabulous!

Another friend of a friend, whom I think is a total douchebag, goes around lying about being allergic to latex so that he can have unprotected sex with women, and it works!

This is why I laugh a little when gents on the forums, or in email or appointments, get a bit freaked out or nervous about us SPs having an STI. Have you ever had an SP say “I’m allergic to latex so let’s just skip the condom, don’t worry I am clean and I won’t get pregnant”… I didn’t think so! (And if you have, well then I don’t know where you have been going but you might want to reconsider, and pay a visit to the STI clinic).

SPs always have condoms. I am always prepared! The drunk girl/guy at the bar who randomly hook up typically aren’t and they are drunk so they have poor judgement and skip the condom.. Also, many average everyday people are too scared to get tested, or ashamed, or embarrassed, or just ignorant.

So gents, enjoy your safe SP sex, get tested, and understand the risks associated with everything before you partake. There is a wealth of knowledge on the internet and some sites (like perb) even have a health nurse whom you can ask for advice. And even if you are playing safe, it is important to get tested regularly (every 3-6 months depending how often you play). My favorite clinic is this one, they let you use an alias name if you wish and they are very professional and NOT judgemental:

Play safe and have fun everyone! And if she says “I’m allergic to latex, we don’t need to use a condom”… RUN!

** I do not use the word slut in a mean or hurtful way. I am a proud slut! I think being a slut is a good thing as long as you are an ethical slut. By ethical slut I mean that you are honest, safe, and do your best not to emotionally or physically harm or endanger others. (See the book The Ethical Slut- great book!)

Vancouver Independent Companion- thoughts and rants

So why are these things not as obvious to clients who understand the no BBFS rule? Clients attempt these things now and then. The risks are obvious to me…

– Touching yourself (especially with precum present) and then attempting to perform uncovered digits on me with the same hand

– Uncovered grinding, so close that it could easily slip in, but even if it doesn’t the genitals rubbing against each other is a no-no!

I sometimes question if people were offered sex-ed in school, or if they just didn’t pay attention, or if they are just dumb!

I’m sure almost every SP has had at least one potential client ask about BBFS, to which we respond by saying we will not see them at all since they dared to ask that.. But apparently there are a whole bunch of non-SP women out there just dying to give away bare back sex for free!

I say this because in the recent months I have had a few guy friends on the hunt for FWB situations, casual dating, or NSA sex. Meeting ladies online has been pretty easy, and sometimes it has even progressed to drinks and the anticipation of sex… until…